But it did suggest that a look ahead might be in order. Since I am also, in addition to being a humble pornographer, sex nerd, author, bon vivant, old married guy, also a science fiction writer and futurist, I thought I would give some thought to the subject of the Future of Men. Dr. Drexler gets some parts of it right, but she relates it in a slightly patronizing (matronizing?) manner, and I don't feel her conclusions are taking in the scope of the problem.
Luckily, I did a chapter on this very subject for the Manosphere book, and this looks like a good place for an excerpt, of sorts.
Let me begin this way: the situation is both more dire and less dire than Dr. Drexler reports. First, while the
"confusion" she talks about men suffering in contemporary society is real, that's not quite the right word for it. More "confusion, anger, resentment, and suspicion". Everywhere men look, the misandrous pronouncements of media are throwing us under the bus. We're obsolete, we've been told. We no longer matter.
Bullshit. We matter quite a bit, and you ladies are about to learn just how much we can matter. More, the people we matter the most to is you, and you are, collectively, fucking things us. We're not happy about it, but like Dr. Drexler said, we're adapting . . . just not in the ways you want us to.
She tries to hold out the Millennials as examples of men "bettering" themselves. She gives several examples that seem to rate that measurement purely in terms of how much Millennial men are willing to make themselves more useful servants to womankind . . . but very little that considers the innate masculine values.
True, she points out the increase in time spent fathering that the Millennial men seem to display as a sign of progress, and I cannot disagree. My heart is warmed with the number of young men I've seen take an active hand in the fathering of their children, largely (in my observation) due to the utter lack or estrangement of fathering in their own lives.
These young men are, indeed, committed to family, as they have seen (despite its innate fragility in our era) how family is one of the few constants in our lives. They want kids. They want wives. They want wives . . . who won't divorce them. And they want wives they can stand.
So you can expect them to be a bit choosy. Hell, we should encourage them to hold on to that C-Card as long as they can, hold out for the best deal possible, the highest quality woman . . . and not settle for less. Teach them how to make the mommy-wannabes come to them, and demonstrate what they bring to the table.
But as I said, the future is bright. The Millennials are still young. They are still impressionable. And they haunt the internet like ghosts.
Do it, dudes. Be PICKY. Don't settle for less. And you can afford to be. You know why? Because when I said you were in high demand, I wasn't tugging your jockstrap.
You see, within the Sexual Market Place, Dads are more highly valued than Cads, but around the time you're getting married few of you know which one you are, and the women in your lives are banking a lot more on your potential return than on your present value. If you decide to go the Cad route, then your best bet is to get a vasectomy, learn Game, and hump everything in a skirt for the rest of your life.
But if you decide to go the Dad route, and are serious about it, then you build your value and your potential value now . . . and focus on searching diligently for a woman worthy enough to match your level of commitment. And that ain't easy. Luckily, thanks to this bit of light-hearted banter, your value is about to skyrocket. Next, she tells us that men of the future . . .
They will be androgynous followers of a new and superior model of female leadership.
She says that like its a good thing. It's not, for either gender. If you want any indication of where the status quo will actually lead us if we go down Dr. Drexler's happy, testosterone-light path, we need look no further than Japan. And the Herbivores.
If you want to see what Dr. Drexler's "new and improved Millennial men" look like, here's a perfect example. See if you really want to face this future, ladies. And fellas, this is what you'll have to compete against in the future if you want to be even a mediocre dad. You might be the worst bull in the herd, the roughest-looking pup in the pack, the puniest bear in the den, but at least you, Gentlemen, are carnivores. This is what your sisters have to look forward to.
Excerpted from the Manosphere book:
, you have the phenomenon of the herbivore, the sōshoku-kei. This is a whole class of Japanese men who
shun marriage and even girlfriends in favor of an austere lifestyle that
includes indulgence in personal hygiene products, like the American
Metrosexual. Only the herbivore takes
the idea to the extreme . . . and has absolutely
no desire for any kind of romantic commitment whatsoever. Japan
A 2010 survey in
revealed that over 1/3 of Japanese men viewed
themselves that way. Among men in their
20s and 30s, over 70% do. Japan
Philosopher Masahiro Morioka redefined sōshoku-kei danshi as men who are "the nice guys of a new generation who do not aggressively seek meat, but instead prefer to eat grass side by side with the opposite gender." A nation of docile, non-aggressive men completely content not to ogle women in public, but do it in the privacy of their cubes on their iPhones. The feminist utopia.
So how are the women of
greeting this phenomenon? According to traditional feminist ideology,
they should be welcoming it with flowers, relieved that, at long last, the
power of the hated traditional Japanese patriarchy is broken and women can
assume their proper role as co-rulers over the placid island domain. Right?
Women should be in a rape-free, utterly fearless state of gender
Only . . . not so much.
Japanese women are not amused by the sōshoku-kei danshi. In fact, they’re pretty pissed off. Instead of leaping for the golden opportunity to achieve and succeed in one of the biggest post-industrial economies in the world that this should be providing them, as feminism said they should, Japanese women are bitter about the fact that they have virtually no hope of having children.
And you thought Western women are having a hard time finding decent husbands.
The men they meet might be interested in a platonic date, but trying to get them to initiate sex is difficult, if not impossible. Sōshoku danshi are the ultimate Beta orbitors . . . only they don’t really ever want to land.
Why are the sōshoku danshi instructive? Precisely because
is one of the biggest post-industrial economies in the world. Japan has pioneered
much of what we can expect socially, in the context of the post-industrial
economy. You can look at the metropoli
of Japan and see the way things will eventually look in America. And while it might be an ideological victory
for feminism, it would be really, really bad for women in general. Japan
The herbivores have taken the Puerarchy to its logical conclusion. They grew up as the sons of the 1980s salariman, the loyal and hard-working company men who built
into the financial, industrial, and technological powerhouse it is today. They also spent the vast majority of their
time at work while their lonely wives browbeat their children into preparation
for the all-important college exams. For
cultural reasons, the sons got the lion’s share of this attention. And the pressure. Japan
The sōshoku danshi have withdrawn their participation in greater Japanese society, because they see no incentive to pursue the traditional marriage and family. Their distant, overworked fathers provided no guidance or impetus for having a family. Their economy and the spoiled, entitled nature of Japanese girls have given the sōshoku danshi no incentive whatsoever to procreate. None.
The extra demands a wife and children place on a Japanese worker are tremendous, and social expectation mandates that he work his ass off to support them. The sōshoku danshi is utterly disillusioned with the highly structured, highly gendered achievement, the high expectations of Japanese women, and far more content to pursue quiet hobbies and masturbate than actually go on a date.
That’s a bigger deal than it might seem. The Japanese have been the leaders in masturbation technology for decades – we had a short-lived dominance due to the Fleshlight, but after that
blew us away
with the Tenga. Japan
The Tenga, for the uninformed, is a disposable egg-shaped plastic male masturbator that you can buy in a vending machine for a couple of bucks, use a dozen times and then throw away. The Tenga egg comes in many different styles, offering different types of stimulation, but one thing is agreed among all who use them: it’s a better blowjob for a cheaper price than you can get anywhere.
The Tenga allows the sōshoku danshi – or any man – a way to slip away, knock one off, and get back to work without the necessity of a woman involved. It’s cheap, it’s convenient, and it won’t insist on wearing your sweaters. And it’s getting more sophisticated every iteration. The device has such an appeal that the government is considering regulating them, to help encourage the birthrate.
That’s important. Japanese women aren’t the only ones upset with the sōshoku danshi. The phenomenon is having real social repercussions. It’s such a big deal, in fact, that the Japanese government is actively trying to discourage sōshoku-kei behaviors, because it’s leading to a dramatic decline in the birthrate.
And if they can’t sustain the birthrate, then the weight of caring for the Japanese elderly will fall to a smaller and smaller number of working Japanese. So the Japanese government has offered generous cash rewards and tax incentives for young couples to marry and have babies.
Which puts the average young Japanese woman in the unenviable position of having to work to pay taxes to subsidize some other woman’s ability to have kids.
Think about it: you have to do overtime to keep your expensive apartment, but the girl down the hall gets time off and extra money to raise her new baby, since she actually found a husband. And you’re paying for it. Bitter, yet?
The sōshoku-kei are particularly instructive because they have, for all practical purposes, totally invested in the feminist ideal of true equality between the sexes. They have institutionalized Betadom. They have done their best to remove the complicating influence of women from their lives. And they have succeeded, regardless of what it does to Japanese society.
In the ultimate passive-aggressive protest against the social expectations, the sōshoku danshi are doing the bare minimum of what is required of them and spending the rest of the time playing video games or whacking off to porn or watching tv or on the internet. Anything but going out and talking to girls.
So what’s a girl to do? Go to a prostitute.
Well, kinda. While the Japanese hostess bars are pretty well-known to Western businessmen, they’re specific to that clientele. Native Japanese men go to similar places, but reserved for Japanese only. It’s not personal, it’s not racist, it’s just . . . well, it’s just Japanese. Some of these parlors are merely entertainment, some are involved in some kind of paid prostitution. But recently a new kind of hostess bar has arisen, one designed to cater to desperately horny and romantically forlorn young women.
These bars hire well-built Alpha studs to linger and play “host”. For a fee a woman can have the “boyfriend experience”, an attentive man who listens to her and flatters her and pays her attention. And she buys champagne. A lot of highly overpriced champagne. Between the fees and the drinks, a young woman can drop a thousand dollars in a night if she isn’t cautious. If you feel outraged by the cold manipulations of American PUAs, ladies, consider these fellows.
They’re handsome, they’re hunks, and they usually grow to despise the girls they’re paid to flatter. American PUAs have nothing on the brutally cold way these men abuse the affections and expectations of vulnerable young girls.
It’s not unheard of for these girls, many of whom think it’s hopeless for a real, regular boy to find her attractive with the lure of the sōshoku kei on the horizon, to run up debts to these bars in the tens of thousands of dollars. Often they must become prostitutes themselves to have any hope of paying off the debt.
Ironically the girls who needed to pay to get a handsome boy’s attention end up getting paid to give head to sweaty old businessmen their fathers’ age.
The next generation of Japanese will be much, much smaller, and the result of the few “carnivores” who managed to have kids. Think about it: really smart, really aggressive, really rich Japanese kids who suddenly have twice as much room on their island as their grandparent's generation, giant robots . . . and a lot of aggression to work out.
So that's what's in store, Ladies. That's the androgynous utopia you envision, one in which women are so entitled and demanding that men would rather avoid them altogether rather than procreate with them. One in which men check out of the active progress of society in favor of selfish and self-interested pursuits. One in which your daughter's chances of getting married will actually be worse than yours, and her chances of staying married will be comparable to dying in a plane crash. And her chances of actually reproducing, thanks to the USIRIG device, will be even less. No husband for her. No grandkids for you.
Will Americans and Europeans go the same route? Perhaps . . . but I think the unique cultural attitudes in both places will mitigate the problem. That's good news . . . for men. The downside is that unlike Japan, there is no strong cultural provision against marrying outside of your culture in America or Europe, which will allow those dudes who do want to tie the knot to do it . . . just not to European or American girls.
Of course I take issue with this:
If we stopped there it would indicate that we are headed toward a new improved model of males -- kinder, gentler, more accepting and more attached to home and family then men of the past.
That "new and improved" model she's talking about is, again, one in which the value judgement is being made is done so only using female criteria. What constitutes a "new and improved" male, in Dr. Drexler's opinion, is one who is better able to serve women. His own desires, values, interests and issues (with the exception of fatherhood, previously discussed) are unimportant to her. "Kinder and Gentler" are not masculine traits. "More accepting and More Attached" sure look like code words for "enslaved".
That's key. That demonstrates what feminist expectations of men are for the future: men who are of service to women are "good", men who aren't are "bad". Men who pursue their own interests, rejecting a corporate culture in which they are forced to work for the benefit of women, will be told off as slackers and underachievers and shamed for their languorous stay at the Puerarchy.
But honestly, Dr. Drexler, can you blame them? There is virtually no incentive for young men to achieve, to perform, to dance like a monkey in a game that's rigged against them. Where they are seen as the "lowest difficulty setting" and ridiculed for their masculinity. Where the respect their forefathers had is forever denied them because of their gender. Where they are seen as a constant threat on the street, suspect in the workplace, and punished for every attempt at true achievement. Where their wives will leave them and their children can be stripped away without their consent.
That is feminism's legacy to young men. Blame it on economics if you like, but its as much ideology as income.
As you have noticed, "It also appears younger men are shying away from relationships." Further,
Pew research says that the desire to marry among young women is rising -- with high importance increasing from 28 to 37 percent since 1997. For young men, it dropped from 35 to 29 percent. Theories abound.
Why yes, yes they do. I'd have to favor Venker's interpretation here, despite my distaste at doing so (I'm still a progressive, she still works at Fox) but she's dead on: men are avoiding marriage because women have lost touch with their feminine side.
That's it, in a nutshell. When a woman wants to get married as much as these ladies do, one would think that their interest was in the marriage, not the wedding. Yet plenty of evidence demonstrates that they just don't know how to be married, thanks to a healthy dearth of plausible role-models and the utter derision the idea is met with among feminist authority figures. The pages of HuffPo don't celebrate Wives, Dr. Drexler, nor do the articles posted their glorify the idea of being married to a man in the slightest. Indeed, more often than not they condemn and deride the idea of focusing on marriage, not a career, as if being a corporate drone was the dedicated end-game to the feminist plan.
Y'all can have it. We're dropping out.
Not all of us, of course. But the good ones. The ones who have the understanding to see how badly the deck is stacked against us. Just read some of my comments from last post. See the derision the idea of marriage has inspired from my younger male readers. I hear it often. More often than I like. But that's the reason they aren't marrying, Dr. Drexler. There is no incentive in it for them, not just legally, but emotionally and spiritually. They have lost faith in relationships over-all, marriage in particular, and largely because what they see in terms of potential mates turns their stomach.
What do you have to say to them? "No, really, if you marry that woman you're thinking of, then she'll discover her true inner femininity and encourage your masculinity in a self-sustaining system of eternal nuptial bliss!" That ain't true, and we all know it. If a woman doesn't start out her marriage in a feminine frame of mind, then she's not going to suddenly grow it, just like she's not going to suddenly become a nymphomaniac if she's been low-sex for her entire life.
Despite your apparent preference for androgyny, Dr. Drexler, the girls out there hate it in their boyfriends. Dudes certainly don't find it appealing. It's humiliating and against our masculine nature. Only feminism has taught us what happens when a man tries to lead in a relationship (as the 45% of the women, according to your article, apparently want him to do), so we'd rather withdraw and distract ourselves, forget the relationship, and play XBox or whack off rather than pursue a relationship with a woman. XBox doesn't try to get us to wear make-up . . . oh, sorry, "tinted sunscreen" and want us to pretend we like it.
The fact is, the Millenials are the first generation to have the capacity to liberate themselves from social expectation. With new reproductive options opening up, a globe full of feminine women eager to have a marriage and a family, not ashamed, and with more means to make a living underachieving outside of the corporate structure, I think you will find more and more Millennial men are going to be checking out and doing their own thing by 2020. And that "own thing" doesn't involve a suburban ranch, two kids and a future ex-wife.
It involves a tiki bar/surf shop in the Caribbean somewhere staring at bikinis, or teaching English in Taibei with a hot Chinese girlfriend, or grinding code for the next great generation of software, or building andracing antique cars, or spending endless hours playing WoW or guitar or just watching YouTube or any number of other "fun" stuff we like that doesn't involve a complicated, demeaning relationship with a Western woman who, in the final analysis, does not have his best long-term interest in mind.
If we have our way, the Millennial men will finally start understanding their own value, to themselves, even if society doesn't value them. We shall encourage them to drop out, go adventuring, and leave the dreary office life to their sisters while they go in search of a feminine wife or a string of pretty girlfriends. They will find some fulfilling career that pays them squat and we will encourage them to contribute not a damn thing to the gleaming corporate structure men built and that we are now forever locked out of, to the society who sees them as disposable and valueless, to the culture who treats them as dangerous and stupid, not worthy of respect.
For women the fall of gender boundaries has meant freedom, choice and opportunity. For men it has meant confusion. The expectations and assumptions that formed the superstructure for manhood for generations has fallen away, with nothing yet emerging to take their place.
Ah, but that's not quite true, Dr. Drexler. There's not confusion -- there's frustration. So now these men will do what you encouraged two generations of women to do: defy gender expectations and steadfastly NOT marry. NOT reproduce. NOT achieve. The current system is not their friend, so they should take their ball and go home. Men Going Their Own Way, with only a very, very few dedicated future family men expending the effort to wed and breed on purpose.
And what's this?
Most are adjusting nicely to the withdrawal of past entitlements. They will form the core of 2020 men who compete and win without privilege.
Ah, no. That's wishful thinking, I'm afraid, Dr. Drexler. If that is your assessment of modern young men and their attitudes toward the future, I suggest that you are not looking closely enough. What you see as "adjusting nicely" is just the parts you want to see. The parts you don't want to see are still there, and WE sure as hell see them.
|"Mediocre or Average? |
Just what do I want in a future ex-wife?"
Therefore they will seek to further handicap the men in the office with competition-reducing measures and consensus-building organizations that are designed to keep achievement from happening or male leadership from being valued. No glory, no value, no honor, not in a system where the rules are set one way for women, another for men.
We will not compete with that. We might show up, work 8 hours, and take home a paycheck, but compete?
Fuck that, boys. Save it for something important. Like building your own fighting robot.
That's the proper response to the whole "decline of men" meme. Demonstrate to the women gloating about their "victory" that they won through forfeit, because we just don't want to play in a game that's fixed, so we didn't show up to play. While they re-defined femininity to involve corporate achievement and team-building exercises, we will re-define masculinity to involve the issues and interests that are ours, and ours alone.
And that doesn't mean sitting our fat asses in a cube farm so that our female boss at work is happy and our female boss at home is happy and we're fucking miserable.
The time for that has passed. Now we live in the time of the Manosphere, where clues to every man's masculine destiny are just a click away.
My prediction is that we will see the rise of Gamma and Delta and Omega "herbavores" arise, but not quite like in Japan. But we will also see a lot of those boys ditching their fears, learning Game, hitting the gym, dropping their responsibilities and catching a ride someplace interesting to go meet a girl who's not so complicated and do something a lot less permanent than marriage. While I agree with Dr. Drexler that going back is not happening, her vision of "going forward" is not a happy one, even for the male Progressive. But that's not the only way forward, fellas. Androgyny and female domination aren't necessarily in your future -- there's an escape clause!
Dr. Drexler says:
Others will struggle: some to the point that they simply choose to opt out of the competition -- in education, careers, even relationships.
I maintain that this is not a struggle, Gentlemen: the answer is powerfully abundant. This world does not have your interests at heart, nor do the women around you. You will NOT be rewarded for being a good and diligent employee. You will NOT be rewarded for being a loving and capable husband. You will NOT be valued for being an attentive and involved father, no matter what they say. And you will NOT see an over-abundance of marital comfort as a result of your dedication to laundry and dishes. It's a lie, a damnable lie.
So prepare yourself to drop out. Roosh did. Jonathan Frost did. There is a world of adventure beyond the jaded vaginas of the UMC white college-educated woman. The corporate feminists who insist that a career can come before family, leave them alone. Pretend they have dicks. They might as well have -- they damn sure aren't going to be the kind of wife you can rely on.
Cede her the "power" implicit in a 70 work week, let her revel in making partner before she's 40, let her sneer at how she "beat" you "fair and square" and gloat how you just weren't competitive enough. Let her languish in her glass-floored office and soak up the thrill of running something she didn't build . . . let her think she's won. Let her gloat. Let her feel superior.
No, it's not responsible. It's not sensible. It's not mature. But that's fine -- you aren't looking for a wife anyway. You're looking for a choice piece of ass or two to enjoy before you have to open the shop in the morning - aren't you happy you dropped out of school? The woman close to your own age who keeps pressuring you for a date/commitment? A career woman? Don't date her. Don't fuck her. Don't commit to her. And DAMN sure don't marry her. It just isn't in your best interest. She's not going to want to stay married anyway. So leave her alone . . . it's one of the things she fears most in the world.
This is an opportunity for you to use the leverage you have (and it is little enough) to free yourself from the idea that you gotta do college, gotta get a career, gotta make some money and marry some chick from college and gotta get a divorce ten years later when "she's not haaaapy." Use your leverage to build each other into strong, unassailable men, men for whom the self-important rationalizations of their female peers are beneath them utterly. Approach every new relationship with a huge degree of caution.
The real look at Men, 2020 is like this: seven years from now, the median age for marriage will go up. The divorce rate will continue to decline as the marriage rate does (GIGO). Women will be bitterly complaining about the lack of "good" men, while feminist decry the number of dudes who are getting a temporary vasectomy, ditching college, and heading for the beach for an extended adolescence.
Meanwhile, the Manosphere will be going crazy as the Red Pill philosophy grows . . . and younger Millennial women start catching on to the bullshit implicit with "co-equal partnerships" and start reconsidering their futures. But they had better not take too long.
Our sperm is viable until we're 70, and our attractiveness grows while yours fades. Our sons have plenty of time. If you haven't wised up to the idea that men like feminine women and won't settle for less by 2020 (and that does put almost all the Gen X women beyond the safe age for procreation - sorry!) then you really do deserve (for once) what you'll get: increasing frustration and hopelessness is one of your biggest fears - "being alone" - comes true for you, one by one. No True Love. No Happily Ever After. Your best bet will be sex tourism and finding a foreign dude who needs a green card. Good luck with that.
But if you ladies aren't willing to learn how to be a wife, then you can forget about our boys becoming your husbands. We won't let them. We've been down that road and know where it leads. Our boys deserve better than that. If you won't let them become the men they want to be, then we'll find them wives who will, wives who will be devoted, warm, comforting, respectful and appreciative - all the things we are finding lacking in the women growing up today.
And don't think we can't find them wives like that. We don't mind Asian or Latino grandchildren. They're adorable.
Hopefully, by 2030 y'all will get your collective head out of your collective ass before you ruin another generation of young women by advocating the disrespect and derision with which you see men today. But if not, that's not the fault of men for not shaping themselves to be compliant to women. That's women not being able to themselves see past their own privilege in our society long enough to see the damage they've done to it. And if they don't . . . well, it's not because we didn't warn them.
The fact is, there are plenty of things a man can walk away from, despite what John Wayne said. The social expectation that he must marry and reproduce and become a productive and driven member of society is one of them. Without any kind of incentive of having any kind of good wife out of the equation . . . why should we bother going out with you, much less marrying you?
Absolutely outstanding post.ReplyDelete
I'm in my 50s, I wonder what some of the 30 year old Japanese girls would think about me. I'm tall and fairly good looking and way more dominant than most of the Japanese men I have met (even a couple with very successful marriages and families). I wonder if I could find one who wants half a dozen kids.ReplyDelete
Actually, your odds are better at finding a half-Korean, half-Japanese girl. Asian cultures put a high premium on marrying in-culture, but the Koreans in Japan are almost untouchable, when it comes to "polite" Japanese society. Despite having all the other advantages of a Japanese woman's education and society, they just don't have the social clout to marry into the "good" families. But that also means expectations for them are also off, and a marriage to a gaijin might be acceptable.Delete
Asian cultures are . . . complex.
I understand that. Thank you for the recommendation.Delete
I suspect China might be a possibility as well. There are a lot of well educated women in their late 20s who are being considered spinsters because they are still single.
I'm looking for a family and it seems that Japan has realized the value of families well in advance of the West. And if the government is willing to subsidize it, so much the better for me.
You think that Japanese women are different, or any better than Western women? The joke is on you. May you find what you wish for... and suffer dearly for it.Delete
This post is good.ReplyDelete
You could also delve into the military consequences of MGTOW.
The road to 2020 is going to have geopolitical twists and turns as well as sexual twists and turns.
It would be interesting if some of the sōshoku danshi turned out to be highly lethal mercenaries, criminals, or guerrilla fighters. It seems possible, particularly considering some of the legendary Japanese fighters who channeled all their masculinity into violence rather than sexual exploits. (Then again, legends are not history - maybe those fighters were getting sex, but the legends weren't talking about it.)
Drexler's fantasy reminds me of The Gate to Women's Country, by Sheri S. Tepper. In the post-apocalyptic society Tepper describes, men are divided into two groups - the warriors who live outside the city and who do not associate with women, and the servitors who live inside the city with the women. Women and warriors only associate once/year during a sort of fertility festival. Daughters conceived at that time are kept by their mothers; sons are given to their fathers at 5. At adulthood the boys are given the choice of staying with the warriors or moving into the city and becoming a servitor. Men do not get an education if they stay with the warriors; the only way to get access to books and learn higher technology is to submit to the women.ReplyDelete
The surprise reveal at the end of the book is that the women are controlling all fertility and lying to the warriors about their children. In reality, the warriors are not allowed to sire any children. The fertility festival is only a hoax to trick the warriors into thinking the children are theirs. Instead, the women are all artificially inseminated with sperm from the servitors instead, in an attempt to breed violence out of humanity. Only the boys who turn their backs on the violence of the warrior culture are deemed good enough to reproduce. The warriors are told the children are theirs, however, in order to control them, and keep them fighting for the women. (Caveat: It's been a long time since I read this. I can't remember any more if there was a real need for the warriors to defend the cities, or if they just encouraged the warriors to fight the warriors from other communities to keep them busy and keep the warrior numbers down.
This authoress is dreaming. The women are sneaking out every night to be impregnated by the warriors. Not unless the women that do are sterilized will their eugenic vision be possible.Delete
Lez-topias often have a jarring Blue Pill cast to them that makes you snicker about how off-base the authors are about real human sexuality.Delete
Arianna Pattek, a racist, man-hating feminist bitchReplyDelete
In the above link, you will find evidence of her committing the CRIME of discrimination based on a man's race.
I have included her personal email, the email of her academic advisor, link to her Facebook account, link to her two blogs, and her pictures as well.
I suggest you men write to her through her email, Facebook, and blogs, and tell her that you are reporting her for the CRIME of discrimination against men.
American women are really evil bitches.
The whole thing is fake, genius.Delete
This is something that has bothered me for a while. How does one find a wife?ReplyDelete
Long story short, I am 23 and about to finish my degree. I was engaged, and I broke it off largely because I didn't want a future ex-wife. Since then I have been running the MAP, and just generally getting my shit together. I am not the ideal husband, but I am working my ass of to fix that, and I am certainly better than a lot of my competitors. My problem is finding high quality, American women.
Any suggestions on where to look, and things to look for/against?
The odds are not in your favor for finding the woman you are looking for in this country. You're best off not getting married at all. Just say no.Delete
The odds aren't in your favor if you climb Everest, either, but greater the glory the man who tries and succeeds than the man who looked at the summit from afar.Delete
Not everyone has the balls for this. I admit it's fraught with peril. But a man shouldn't back away just because of the possibility of peril. Just keeps things interesting.
"... I am not the ideal husband"Delete
You can begin your 'ideal wife-hunt' by firstly knocking that crap off your boots. When you're looking in the mirror and saying "I am not..." you've already lost. This whole "believe in yourself" has merit; if you can't be confident (and happy) in who you are, what makes you think that a great woman would want to be with you? Reframe, re-engage yourself first.
I married at 30, you're just 23 - you've plenty of time and then some; I don't subscribe to twentyfour8's outlook and believe there are plenty of domestic marriageable women out there (that are just as lost in this clouded haze as men are).
There's no reason to get married. None. Forget the idea that foreign women are somehow different; they're not. Do some research if you don't believe me. Talk to guys that have gone that route. And not just the rich, blue pill dipsticks who don't have a clue what their Russian or Chinese or whatever wife is up to while they're off earning another million. Find normal guys who've gone that route and see what they think.Delete
If you bring a woman from another country to any of the feminazied, Western countries, she WILL become just like the trashsluts we have. TV and her 'friends' will turn her into another one of the collective, and you'll find the only difference between marrying a foreign woman and marrying a native woman is how much it cost you to get her to your location.
Don't marry. Period. It's just not worth it. Ever.
Excellent post. It's rather amusing to see these feminist day-dreams destroyed in masterful fashion. And it's amusing to see that they believe men will just shrug and accept enslavement to women and emasculation. As if women can now just shape society into whatever they want and men will go along with it. The reason western society is the way it is now is because MEN became convinced (by feminists and by beta men) that it would be better that way. Now MEN are seeing that it sucks, so MEN will change it.ReplyDelete
A fine post, and one that truly underscores the fact that red pill thinking is not all "game" and how to pick up chicks. While I agree with lots of what you've written, I think the most telling part of what you've identified will be the response of women in 2020 when they realize that men just refuse to play the game any more. I can foresee an extraordinary amount of angry shaming of men for "not growing up" and for "being overgrown children" by women who want the payoff of a docile, on-call babysitter, housekeeper and banker that they were promised.ReplyDelete
Great post, Ian. Your posts are always such a joy to read. What's the ETA on that book, btw? I've been looking forward to it for months.ReplyDelete
One minor correction for it: the product you're thinking of is called tenga.
A tengu is a long nose monster. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tengu
Oddly enough, Tengu masks are sometimes used as sex toys for women. Just look at that long nose, and you can probably imagine how it works...
My bad. My Japanese is rusty.Delete
Ah, I may have discovered the source of our discrepancy on lack of quality women with your statement "And don't think we can't find them wives like that. We don't mind Asian or Latino grandchildren. They're adorable."ReplyDelete
So, you're mostly referring to the SWPL career-oriented feminist women in this country when you speak with such vitriol? That would make more sense. I've literally been in relationships with strictly only asian and latinas. Currently found a really young, adorable, non-career-type latina chick. It's rather excellent.
There are very few quality women and they are found in all races/ethnicities. Anyone who believes non-White women are of higher quality, as a whole, is a fool.Delete
Great post, Ian, I really enjoy ready your blog. Did you know women’s greatest fears,"49% fear becoming a bag lady -- a homeless woman who wanders the streets of a city lugging her meager belongings in a shopping bag." http://stuartschneiderman.blogspot.com/2013/03/the-bag-lady-complex.htmlReplyDelete
Excellent summarization of why Men Going Their Own Way is not only rational, but a winning strategy. "You win at equality, feminists? Fine... but WE win at life."ReplyDelete
I happen to believe these things go in cycles, not a permanent downward trajectory.ReplyDelete
As has happened throughout history, at some point geopolitical pressures will force whatever country you're in into some sort of conflict. That conflict will demand a return of masculinity, not only for the fight itself, but also for the austere conditions that result from any struggle. In a way, society will rectify itself.
It took Western civilization over a thousand years to correct itself from how badly the Romans screwed everything up. Don't be so optimistic.Delete
Fuck that shit. I'm staying at home for that conflict. You go girlz!! Seriously should we not let the deteriorate so much that this with women doesn't happen again. For example Angry Harry quotes a bit of research that 75% of the women dropped out of the workforce between 1860 and 1930. Come the sixties they wanted back out to work and now want to be stay at homes. WTF? Male pill plus MGTOW will be the answer I suspectDelete
There are a lot of reasons why the Dark Ages happened and a lot of reasons why it won't be like that. The internet is one of those reasons.Delete
This is a really well-written though kind of depressing article. One of my readers disagrees that the problem in Japan is due to feminism, though. She wrote:ReplyDelete
I really wish Westerners would stop assuming Japan’s problems are caused by Feminism. That is just not true. There is very little Feminism in Japan. The social problems modern Japan has been facing are the result of a 2 decade long economic slump, paired with the extreme demands traditional Japanese society places on its men. Japanese men who cannot find jobs are viewed as shameful. They feel emasculated, than become herbivores/start cutting themselves/etc. Married Japanese women are not expected to work. When a Japanese woman gets engaged, her office throws her a going away party. The young men who have jobs but cannot afford support a family on their salary, do not even enter the dating market.
From the OP: The Japanese have been the leaders in masturbation technology for decades – we had a short-lived dominance due to the Fleshlight, but after that Japan blew us away with the Tenga.
LOL, well, Durex is on top (heh) of matters:
The future of foreplay? Vibrating 'Fundawear' controlled by smartphone will help long-distance lovers keep in touch
Funnily, and maybe accidentally, Drexler links to a James Wolcott Vanity Fair "End of Men" piece he wrote in 2008. Wolcott is always sharp and funny, and has handy a well-functioning Magic 8 Ball with which to see into the future. Worth a look.ReplyDelete
Great article! There is no real confusion in modern masculinity. The response is clear and simple: live well and go your own way.ReplyDelete
Ian, you make so much sense, I can't believe that you're actually a liberal!ReplyDelete
If I had to put a label on it, I'd call myself a "Pragmatic Progressatarian". I'm too pro-2ns Amm to be a liberal, and too pro-choice to be a conservative.Delete
Heh. Maybe it's time for a "Radical Moderate".
Excellent article. Absolutely spot-on. The most powerful vote a man can cast doesn't involve the ballot box, it involves the feet. Leave these women unmarried and barren. Reduce your consumer spending. Reduce your productive contributions to society.ReplyDelete
And do not forget the role the State has played in this affair. Without their support, none of this would have been possible. In response to that, men should look at limiting their taxable income as much as possible. Every dollar you pay in, is a dollar spent artificially propping up empowered single mothers who are, as studies have shown, raising the next generation of emotionally damaged adults and criminals.
As a breeder with a latina SAHM and working the long hours to fund a high living standard for me and mine, I can say it's a lot of work, maybe too much, in fact, at the outset, but, IMO, a worthwhile venture if you value legacies and contributing to the gene pool. I completely concur with the MGOW lifestyle, and only opted out of that after stumbling into a relationship with a 3rd world national. That being said, marriage, even to an appreciative and exotic foreigner comes at a tremendous personal cost and is no panacea. It's just a hell of a lot more fulfilling than marriage to a fellow American.ReplyDelete
I know some will disagree,but I see the Red Pill marriage as a variation of MGTOW. The key is just not giving a shit about anything that isn't a personal priority to you and your goals. If you decide that producing high-quality offspring with the help of a devoted and intelligent mother is going to be your personal hobby, then that's no less valid (and probably more so) than, say, restoring vintage trucks or tracking down Bigfoot.Delete
It can be more expensive . . . but Bigfoot is unlikely to select a quality nursing home for your dotage.
Women are poor losers. They're also poor winners. The entire article that woman wrote is a testament to everything wrong with women today: arrogance and narcissism. To think that arrogance can build a better world is mistaken. To think that she can improve anyone's life by constantly kicking, belittling men is wrong.ReplyDelete
I try and avoid all of these articles. I try and stay away from them because they hurt so much. The basic premise behind this is that men don't have feelings so you can say whatever you want about men. I do have feelings and deflated self-esteem. To me these female superiority articles that seem to come out week after week are driving me to suicide. I don't think I'm alone in feeling this way. I wonder how many others have felt so terrible about this that they saw death as the best option.
I wonder if these white men getting jaded about marriage would consider dating/marrying an educated, respectable black female that appreciates a hard working husband?ReplyDelete
Not all women want to climb the corporate ladder and I know a few black women who are tired of lazy, broke black men and would be loyal and very appreciative of a man who actually wants to settle down and have children. Something to think about...
You must be high on something, because those are some of the most feminized individuals and among the very worst choices for marriage as a result.Delete
I have to concur. I live in the South, and while I love the black women in my life, I can count on one hand the number I would even consider marriage too -- and it's not about race. I've dated black women in the past, and the cultural attitudes toward men, in general, and black men, in particular, give me little hope that a marriage to a black woman would work out. There is just far too much distrust, often for good reasons, and too much anti-male influence from the older generations.Delete
Which is a pity. If any community could benefit from a strong dose of Red Pill, it's the African-American community.
yeah yeah we've heard all that before, yawn.ReplyDelete
Late to the party here, but FUCK THIS DROPPING OUT SHIT.ReplyDelete
Living well is the best revenge. While that career woman sneers that she just got a pay raise, exhibit the amused mastery of being the guy who will soon be her boss.
And then, when she revels in both your unabated power and disinterest in forming a relationship with her, fuck her sister.
I like the cut of your jib.Delete
I have nothing to contribute to the Corporatist, Collectivist, Consumerist, Multi-Cultural abomination of the USSA. A man is defined by what he does, and most of what a man does is work. So let's examine the incentives for a man and his life's work.ReplyDelete
I should work hard to provide free abortions to Feminists?
I should work hard to provide a borderline retard and her ten illegitimate children a free house, free food, and free medical care?
I should work hard so a woman can steal half my income, my home, and my children?
I should work hard so some Too Big To Fail bank can steal my home, or devalue my life savings?
I should work hard so a border-hopping illegal can invade and degrade my community at my expense?
I should work hard so the MIC can take my sons' lives to further weapons sales?
I should work hard so the Federal government can take half my income and slide it to their corporate cronies, who will in turn offshore jobs and loot the infrastructure we built?
I should work hard to support a culture which mocks me, my ancestors, and everything we stand for?
This Saxon has learned to hate. I come not to praise the USSA, but to bury it. When Men re-enter society, we will not work to protect it, preserve it, or procreate in it. We will return to destroy it.
Jesus Christ, Ironwood! I started to stand and clap toward the end there. Well done, sir!ReplyDelete
I apologize for the long comment in advance, but it's worth the read. Here's my story, I'm a 21 year old biology major. I recently became single after being in a relationship for five years. My boyfriend ruthlessly dumped me which caused me to turn into a full-blown feminist. I understand now why he dumped me though, if I'm not being a feminine woman, what incentive does a self-respecting man have to stick around?ReplyDelete
I struggled with single life on campus. In order to secure a relationship on campus, one literally has to acquire sociopathic traits to manipulate people accordingly. The "desirable" men on campus have taken so much crap from our generation's feminist agenda that they have come to hate women. Especially attractive ones. So they treat most women like disposable objects in return. The feminine ones get commitment, but only a fraction of what they should be getting because the desirable men have too many opportunities to be cads thanks to all the liberated women slutting around. Our society tells us that women have every reason to go to college, get educated, empowered, etc., but let me tell you, it only cripples us. I'm not being conceited right now, but I would say that I am a decently attractive woman, I have no problem getting first dates. The players stick around because they love to chase, but quality men disappear quicker than morals in Vegas.
At this point in my life, I had only slept with two men, and I never saw myself having sex with someone I didn't love but four months of single life ensued, and I finally caved. I knew I was worth more than the players I was attracting (or the extremely feminine men), but I really needed sex. Act like a man, and your body creates more testosterone, it seems.
I had a one-night stand with a guy over spring break, and (excuse my language) fucked him wildly. My unladylike behavior caused him to call me a slut, someone not worthy of bringing home to mom. I couldn't comprehend. Society today tells us that women and men are equals. What gives? I was depressed for a few weeks because I had come to realize that society hasn't made any progress at all. As an attractive woman, I have to spend thousands on college, stay "cute", work to pay for my own things, put-out (or be called a prude and dumped) and forfeit all the feminine things I like in order to fit in with society. Men are no longer expected to pay for their girlfriends, they demand sex, and treat "liberated" women with zero respect. I'm friends with many beautiful, ambitious women and I can't tell you how many nights we've spent crying on each other's shoulders, confused as to why men don't love us like their "damsel-in-distress" girlfriends.
In short, feminism has destroyed our society. It's funny that women are the ones fighting for equal rights, since it's crippling us immensely. I used to despise our patriarchal society, but I've learned that patriarchy is controlled by women('s vaginas). Don't believe me? If my comment wasn't long enough, here's a 36 page research paper studying the suppression of female sexuality. It concludes that women deny their sexuality in order to gain commitment and financial support from men. (www.femininebeauty.info/suppression.pdf) Do I seem like I'm part of the weaker sex? Like I'm incapable of holding my own with men? I hope not. But according to the paper, women pretend to be delicate and helpless to swindle more money, love and support from men, otherwise known as commitment. What comes to mind is the Chinese tradition of foot-binding, crippling oneself to distinguish helplessness and submissiveness. Is it too late for us to go back? I don't think anyone will believe I'm a damsel in distress now that I've proven that I'm more than capable of taking care of myself.
"What comes to mind is the Chinese tradition of foot-binding, crippling oneself to distinguish helplessness and submissiveness. Is it too late for us to go back? I don't think anyone will believe I'm a damsel in distress now that I've proven that I'm more than capable of taking care of myself."Delete
Holy fuck women are depraved. LOL. I think you just explained why my mom let my stepdad beat the shit out of her. Are you really that desperate? Some of the comments here are so fucked up. You know Chinese mothers did that to little girls without their consent for the sake of a fashion trend right? Just because you're not getting laid by the same guy consistently doesn't mean you have to physically abuse your daughter.
Just wondering about one of the facts stated above: "A 2010 survey in Japan revealed that over 1/3 of Japanese men viewed themselves that way. Among men in their 20s and 30s, over 70% do." The surveys which I've come across state that over 70% of UNMARRIED 20- or 30-year-old Japanese men view themselves as soushokudanshi. With, respectively, approximately 30% and 70% of 20-year-old and 30-year-old Japanese men being married, this brings the numbers of soushokudanshi down considerably. If you've just encountered different data sets, I'd be interested to see them - do you have any links I could check out?ReplyDelete
Tenga huh! Never heard of that one. May have to back-burner my Fleshlight.ReplyDelete
You crushed it with this post. Probably the best, most powerful I've read to date.
The biggest peril for feminism (and eventually its doom) is the man who says no.ReplyDelete
Great article, Ian.
Thanx much for the outstanding post.ReplyDelete
Your discussion of the situation in Japan and the Host houses is shown in great detail in the documentary "The Great Happiness Space". It's on Netflix streaming and its worth a watch.
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The promotion of homosexuality (apparently, mainly for men) is totally in line with what feminists want, to help destroy men.ReplyDelete
The Russians have taken the first step in solving this. Bring the anti-gay propaganda laws to the west and that will make things better for everyone.
Perhaps the same should be done of feminist propaganda.
Can anyone change this...ReplyDelete
So glad I am gay.ReplyDelete
I have a friend who is straight and more feminine/less interested in sex than the average guy. He is interested in video games, computer animation and other interesting things like that. This article sort of implies a childish man who lives at home is less productive, but this guy I know is productive, he just doesn't make money doing his hobbies. Unlike most straight guys I have been friends with he (and his social circle for the most part) arent homophobic at all, in fact they "seem gay" but aren't. At the beginning of the article this quality is being praised...but then suddenly it's bad?? I don't really get it.
"Despite your apparent preference for androgyny, Dr. Drexler, the girls out there hate it in their boyfriends. Dudes certainly don't find it appealing. It's humiliating and against our masculine nature. "
But don't herbavore men like wearing makeup and taking care of their personal hygiene? Isn't the point that they're androgynous, not interested in sex, but still aren't gay? I personally feel this way about my masculinity to a certain extent but I know these softie metrosexual guys I know definitely don't mind even being seen as gay--they just say they know they're not gay and that's what matters not what other people think
I think this might be the wrong place for information about my friend as I think he's like this naturally and not doing it as a protest against traditional relationships. IDK he might for all I know. Does anyone else have any more information about this trend??
reading this is so sad. it really is.ReplyDelete
First of all - what's a Drexl?ReplyDelete
Secondly, she knows what she says is untrue. She does not say it because she believes it, she says it to prevent young women from turning away from feminism.
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