Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Office Game: A Primer (Part 1)

Vox Day had an post on Business Game, and that inspired someone to write me an email with a question, which inspired this (series of) post(s).  The basic question is, "Can you and should you use the Game techniques you learn as a mating strategy to forward your career in a female-dominated industry?

The answer is yes.  Let me tell you how. 

Mrs. Ironwood works in a heavily female-dominated field.  Most of her colleagues are female, skewing heavily toward older women on their second or third careers.  That means that most of the offices she’s worked in have been overwhelmingly female, with just a smattering of males.  It’s also a profession which attracts its fair share of lambdas, so the few straight dudes who work in that field are swimming in a sea of estrogen.

So this is the worst place possible to practice Game, right?  A sexual harassment suit waiting to happen?  And endless horizon of diversity-training classes ahead of you?  Or is it merely a place for white knights and manginas to overdose on Blue Pills until they hit menopause?

In fact, a female-heavy environment such as a female-dominated workplace is often an outstanding opportunity to practice Game . . . with a few caveats.  And the first one is going to be confusing.

You don’t practice Game at work with the intent to seduce anyone.

Allow me to explain, Gentlemen.  As I've discussed in detail elsewhere, women who associate together form the Female Social Matrix, regardless of what the context might be.  The FSM surrounds us all, even at work.  So using Game to seduce someone at work has the strong possibility of entangling you in a Machiavellian maelstrom of competing loyalties and petty infighting of titanic proportions – hence the should-be-a-Game-law rule “don’t shit where you eat”. 

But that doesn’t mean you can’t practice your Game there, and – and this is important – actually use Game to improve your work performance and social dynamic.  Game is, after all, designed to influence social dynamics, and in the service-oriented economy we live in, social dynamics are key to any serious professional ambitions.  Therefore, utilizing Game to further your career goals isn't just not “unfair”, it is in your best interests to do so.  Because despite what they say (remember the difference between what women say and what they do) they do NOT have your best interests in mind.  You are there as a useful tool or an obstacle to them, and adopting any other posture in return is career suicide.

If Game is used to counter the typical female traits of Solipsism, Rationalization, and Entitlement (and the Shit Tests that arise from all three) in dating and romance, there is no reason why you should not also exploit the power Game gives you to challenge and manage the females at your workplace.  And while these suggestions won’t all fit into every workplace, you’ll get the gist of it quickly enough.

The Blue Pill Office Strategy:

The problem is, most dudes take a brow-beaten approach to an all-female office.  They’ve been so poisoned by feminist ideology that even if they reject it, it colors their perspective in unhealthy ways.  For instance, a fairly dominant single dude who is used to hooking up four or five times a week might see the sea of cubicles, feel the estrogen in the air, and resign himself to a kind of bitter quiet lest he rouse the wrath of the Personnel Gods.  One careless remark, and he’s toast and he knows it.  And he always seems to make that remark in front of the exact wrong person.

She might not even report it, but she will talk about it – he knows it, too.  And he knows he has trouble coming.  At that point he uses the ideology of feminism as such a profound negative that he becomes embittered, and gains a rep in the Matrix as an angry, sexist introvert that bears watching.  He reacts in turn to the Consensus formed against him and merely confirms their assessment by his sarcastic and biting response.  This leads to the Matrix marginalizing him for his “unproductive” attitude, and his work performance suffers even if his work product remains good.  But because he responded churlishly, they treated him collectively like a disapproving mother, the go-to attitude for the Matrix in that situation.

The result?  He gets passed over for promotion because he’s not diverse enough.  He starts slinking around the edges of the office, effectively socially ostracized, his continuing displays of petulant behavior and petty feuding making him appear less manly in the eyes of just about everyone there.  His co-workers are de facto opponents and competitors who just happen to have boobs.  They also resent his attitude and are immediately wary of his presence in their midst.  Before long he’ll either get labeled “creepy” or “angry”, and either way he’s not getting promoted.

Sound familiar to a few of you?  How many dudes have screwed up their jobs because they went to work every morning prepared for battle, playing a perpetual game of quoting employee handbook regulations and puerile mocking?  At that point you couldn’t hit on anyone at work if you tried – the Matrix has formed such a strong consensus against you that any woman who dares to break it risks losing position.  Your only options are to sit tight and hope the company lays off  half of your department, or to pretend to be a white knight mangina in order to weasel your way back into their good graces.  Sucks to be you, dude.

That is, pre-Game.

The Red Pill Strategy

Consider again what Game is: a social strategy.  One designed ultimately to get you laid early and often, but the basis of Game is to manipulate social situations to your advantage through use of a knowledge of human psychology . . . specifically human sexual psychology.

So can you apply human sexual psychology at work and have it affect your job performance without getting your penis directly involved?

Oh, mais ouis!

 The basics of Game presentation apply to work situations just as they do in mating situations.  While feminism has trained you to treat your female co-workers like fellow comrades who just happen to have boobs, and not women whose boobs you can’t stop thinking about, that’s a Shit Test.  If you play along, you’ve lost.  As you attempt to suppress your strong feelings on the matter, grit your teeth and soldier on with the burden of daily emasculation on your shoulders, your attitude craps out. 

So back that shit up and re-frame.  Forget that your female co-workers are co-workers, for a moment, and approach them as you would women in a bar – by controlling the frame, first and foremost.  Every interaction with your female colleagues should be pro-active and on your terms, ideally.  When you go to a meeting, don’t just zone out – have your own private agenda in hand, and pursue it respectfully but aggressively.  When you go see your boss about something, always have something else that you want to discuss above and beyond whatever it is she wants to discuss. Always control the frame.

By controlling the frame, you control the conversation: “I understand you’re busy, but I just wanted to know if you were leaning more toward Barbara or me to head up the new office?” (where Barbara is a total idiot).  Or if you've been called to account for someone else’s screw-up, present the entire thing as if you’re thrilled that someone is at last getting to the bottom of this.

Next, dress the part.  If you’re the only dude in an office full of women, don’t slob out because you know you aren't going to get laid, so why put in the effort?  By taking care with your appearance and clothing, you distract women from far more weighty concerns about business.  I once wore a beautiful bright yellow silk tie, hand-painted, to an important presentation where I was pitching some pretty impressive bullshit to a panel of middle-aged female executives.  My (female) boss had me dress appropriately, and even selected my tie.  She wasn't an idiot – she knew how women’s minds work.

Because I had on expensive shoes (bought second-hand from a shoe repairman), a tailored suit, and had that glorious tie on, during the meeting their eyes and attention were on my threads, not on the crap I was piling up on paper.  Afterward the each asked more questions about the tie than they did about the presentation – and yes, we got the contract.  Not because of the yellow tie, but the tie gave them something to both focus on and admire, which kept them from looking at our figures too closely.  A panel of dudes would have completely ignored what I was wearing.

Next, remember the fundamental Red Pill truths: Never trust what a woman says, trust what she does. 

That may seem difficult in a workplace setting, because it’s entangled in all sorts of protocols and regulations governing behavior.  If you have a female boss in particular, however, this is a vital thing.  You can try to do the letter of what she says she wants and still fail, in her mind.  You have to do what she actually wants, even if she doesn’t know what she wants. 

This implies communicating with her (or any other woman) on two different channels.  The official office communication channel, and the emotional channel.  When working in an office full of women, how they’re feeling is as important as what they are saying.  This is important to you not because you need to emasculate yourself and play the Matrix games, but because knowledge is power, and knowing who is feeling bitchy that day can be as important as not getting a memo.

In fact, the more you recognize the Matrix games and how to avoid them, and the more you Game the women therein, the more personal power you will accrue in the office regardless of the number of women working there.  That’s essential.  I’ll explain why in a moment.  Until then, just . . . be dominant.

Wait!  You can’t be the dominant male at work in an office full of women, can you?  Not without being the boss?

(To Be Continued . . . )

1 comment:

  1. Good article about office politics with women.

    One difference I notice is that men tend and try to look over the emotional channel in work situations to get the job done.

    Women will only work through the emotional channel to get things done.